Chapter Eight
The Blue-Ray Energy Center

Getting Ready to Communicate

The blue ray seats the learnings/teachings of the spirit in each chakra within the mind/body/spirit complex, animating the whole, communicating to others this entirety of being-ness.⁹⁷

In discussing the blue-ray chakra, we are talking about pure, integrated spiritual or metaphysical energy, which we have not done before. The chakras of the energy body which we have discussed previously in this report have all been located along the spine in the torso of the physical body, starting with the red ray at the groin and moving upwards into the orange ray in the belly and the yellow ray in the solar plexus. In the last chapter we discussed the green-ray chakra, in the area of the chest and heart.

The lower rays deal with the immediate problems of our physical bodies, our emotions and our reactions to incoming catalyst. The Confederation would call these lower-chakra issues “mind/body” issues. Even the heart chakra can be shut down by incoming catalyst of the lower-chakra type, such as hurt feelings and resentment.

Now we leave the torso and its concerns behind, for this first volume of my report on Confederation principles. We move up into the throat. As we look at the blue-ray chakra, we see the working of an integrated mind/body/spirit for the first time. All that work which we have done on keeping our chakras clear up through the heart now pays off. There is no more talk about keeping the energy body clear. We cannot access our blue-ray energy center at all until we are solidly within our open hearts and firing on all chakras. We are not in blue ray until our voices are voices of love.

Our blue-ray chakras are impervious to blockage. They dwell solidly in the area of spirit. If our energy can enter this hundred-faceted, flashingly brilliant throat chakra at all, nothing can stop us from communicating our shining truth. That is what the blue ray is all about: communicating from the heart. An open heart springboards us into open communication.

Sacred Sounds

When you are using sacred words and sacred language, and when you produce any sound consciously, aware of the sacredness of that sound, the voice brings to life underlying time/space-oriented or non-local energies that alert certain areas of vibration throughout the infinite universe of the one Creator.⁹⁸

Honest, open communication is a precious resource for the Player. And that starts with talking within or to ourselves. We have to know what we think before we can communicate it. And sometimes that is not easy.

When I am stumped by a situation and do not know how to address it, I often talk out loud to myself. The reason for this is that it helps me to gain clarity. When I think about a puzzling situation, it tends to go around and around in my head without ever revealing to me the key to untangling my puzzle.

I have found that when I talk out loud to myself, I actually listen to myself much better than when I think to myself. There is something about exteriorizing the thoughts in my head that is very helpful. I finally hear myself! And as I talk out loud, knowing that my concerns are sacred, I invoke my guidance system. I invoke that “still small voice” that helps so much to enhance the information I “hear.”

If you have life issues to resolve but do not wish to consult a therapist, you can be your own therapist. Find a private place and simply talk out loud to yourself, knowing that your concerns are sacred. Listen carefully to your own words as you speak them. You may well get a whole new “take” on what you truly think and who you truly are.

Before I go into the main material of this chapter, I would like to share something that is not in the Confederation information. It comes out of my singing and performing experience. Our voices themselves play a part in clear communication. Our breath is sacred, being life itself. When we speak out loud, we are shaping that sacred breath and making sounds with it. These sounds have an effect upon those around us, calling them to attention or making them feel more comfortable.

When our voices are pleasant, we are naturally more self-confident. We know that others enjoy listening to us, which relaxes us so that we can keep our minds on saying what we have to say in the very best way. And achieving a more pleasant voice is not hard to do.

If you do not find your own voice soothing and comforting, there is a simple technique for improving the quality of your voice. Usually, a voice that is tuneful is coming from the diaphragm. If you do not particularly like your voice, you will probably find that you are speaking from the throat, the nasal cavity or up in the head space.

If you are speaking from the throat, your voice may have a tight, flat, non-resonant tone. You sound “uptight.”

If you are speaking through your nose, your voice will have a nasal quality people may find unpleasant.

If you are speaking from up in your head-space, your voice may be thin, shrill and squeaky when excited. You may have trouble being heard.

Perhaps you have noticed that professional singers and actors often have particularly resonant voices. This is because they have been trained to produce their tones from the deep chest. You can easily train yourself in the same way.

Imagine bringing your voice up from the deep chest. Breathe deeply before speaking and then project your voice from deep within the chest. Practice this for a few days and you may be very happily surprised at just how much difference this has made in the sound of your voice. You will have picked up the resonance of the “chest voice.”

Bringing the voice up from the heart level does more than make your speaking voice more pleasant and resonant. It awakens the heart chakra. Your voice then becomes imbued with the sincerity of the heart-felt word and the vibrations of harmony and affection. You become a living instrument whose words are musically spoken. And the listener, whether yourself or another, hears that difference and responds.

Our voices are our signatures in a way. Our pets will respond to our voices and no one else’s. We can pick our children’s voices out of a crowd of hundreds. And the sound of our beloved’s voice is unique. When we hear that special voice, we are home. So it is good to tune up our voices and make them pleasant to hear.

The voice can also be a powerful healer. A kind word can mend tattered feelings. And a sweet song is even better. Singing is to the spoken word as poetry is to prose. When we listen to a conversation or to someone reading prose, we are using the logical, rational side of our minds. When we listen to poetry or singing, we are using the intuitive, insightful part of our minds. The addition of melody or rhyme to words condenses and enhances the power of the voice.

I often insert songs into my speeches in order to help people get into both sides of their brains at once as they listen to what I have to say about the power of unconditional love. You can use your singing voice, too, to comfort a loved one, to praise or offer thanksgiving or just to sing the blues. Singing does the soul good. Never worry that your voice is not “good.” If your heart is in your song, the vibrations will soothe and comfort those who hear it, just as a baby is quieted by its mother’s lullaby.

Speaking our Truth to Power

We would encourage careful thought when using words. Any time that a slip from communication to persuasion or wounding is perceived, let there be an honest and immediate effort to clean up the communication and to reestablish communication as a clear and sweet channel of energy between two people.

That is the beautiful thing about communicating in clear blue ray. When the heart is open and words are used well, each word carries that energy of the heart and can be perceived not as that which comes to wound but that which comes to aid.⁹⁹

Whenever we use our voices, we Players are working with the right use of power—the power of our breath and our ability to shape that breath into an instrument of compassionate, honest communication.

As Players, we keep integrating new information into our whole being. We take in information from all the lower chakras within our energy bodies. Then we run all incoming feelings and thoughts from the lower chakras up into our heart chakras.

As we achieve the open heart, we can begin to speak with the integrated energies of all our chakras. And as we communicate, we keep accessing all of our chakras, as their energies respond to our discussion in the form of emotional reactions. We keep that flow going from lower chakras to heart, back down to lower chakras and back up again, updating and increasing our understanding and integrating it as we go.

In blue ray, we are speaking from that broader standpoint which we have reached by integrating all of our emotions into our heart and by understanding and forgiving them in ourselves. This viewpoint enables us to understand and forgive the same energies in other people. Our attention and communication then become gifts of love.

We keep on top of our emotional responses in order not to be overwhelmed by them during the discussion. If our emotions alone control us we cede control to our lower chakras and pull away from the open heart. If we integrate our responses into the open heart, then we can speak with that energy which is blue-ray.

Our aim is to transcend speaking only as a sexual being, or as a being in a relationship, or as a being who identifies with a group.

As Players, we consciously intend to use our voices and our words thoughtfully, carefully and intentionally. Have you heard the phrase, “Speak your truth to power”? We are working towards speaking our truth to power when we lift our voices in communication, aware that this sharing of our thoughts is a sacred activity.

And that is true even when we do not say much. In the daily run of interchanges with clerks, corporate agents and acquaintances, often a smiling “Thankspreeshadit” or a “Havagoodun” communicates our loving wishes quite adequately. But even in those surface exchanges, the Player will speak from the heart

Getting Honest

There is always some difficulty in penetrating blue-ray energy, for it requires that which your people have in great paucity; that is, honesty. Blue ray is the ray of free communication with self and with other-self.¹⁰⁰

To speak with honesty is a real achievement. It is not that we mean to be less than honest. But we are often operating from a position of half-knowledge. We often make incorrect assumptions about other people’s unspoken feelings. I have been surprised many times in my life to discover that what I thought was the situation with another person was all wrong! And, aiming from that incorrect assumption, my words did not carry the truth I intended to share.

And we may not be in touch with our own feelings, either. Sometimes we are slaves of old habit. We may be offering “truths” about ourselves that need updating. Our tastes and opinions develop and change throughout the course of our lives. Instead of offering our standard, automatic answers in a given situation, we can improve the quality of our communication by taking just a moment to review our assumptions. Do we still feel that way? Is this still what we think? Or have we grown out of the “box” of our old opinions? In order to work towards staying in blue ray when we speak, then, our first work as Players is within ourselves.

Just getting in touch with our true and unvarnished feelings can be really hard to do. We have had a lot of training during our childhood on how we ought to feel and what we should think. We have a set of polite responses which we trot out in order to grease the social machinery. At first, such guidelines and learned responses are helpful to a growing personality. After a while, however, they can constitute a prison.

And nothing takes us out of blue-ray communication faster than the desire to impress someone. The Player needs to evaluate his responses in conversation to be sure that he is not slanting his words in order to boast or to leave a favorable impression. It is a great temptation! We all have our favorite stories. We often tell them over and over. It is not necessary, however, to respond to every story we hear with a story of our own in order to communicate well. Sometimes what the other person needs is for someone just to listen to them.

Our communication habits tend to reflect our preference for talking over listening. Perhaps you have heard the joke about the person at the party who monopolizes the conversation for minutes on end, talking all about himself. Finally, he pauses long enough to say, “Enough about me. Let’s focus on you! What do you think of me so far?”

We need to check our egos at the door.

It is hard to realize the full power of our words. Our best way to appreciate their power is to remember times when people have carelessly hurt our feelings by words casually spoken, perhaps even as a joke. One reason I am fond of e-mail is that the medium allows us to review what we are communicating before we hit “send.” When we are speaking with another person in conversation, whatever we say is “out there” as soon as we say it. We cannot take it back. The old adage to “count to ten” before speaking in a dicey situation is a good one.

We need to be on guard to make sure we are being transparently honest when dealing with a challenging conversation. It is easy to slip and slide away from open, honest words in such situations. We may fear that we will not be heard accurately. We may fear that our honesty may hurt the other’s feelings. We may fear he will reject us if he knows what we truly think. We may discover that we are slanting our words in order to persuade or control the other person’s reactions or responses. And, caught in these fears and concerns, we stop speaking from blue ray and find ourselves speaking from orange ray or yellow ray instead, or resting in an uncomfortable silence.

One such example of well-meant dishonesty in my own life is that of dealing with my brother, Tommy. I spoke earlier of his trying for 23 years to coax me to stop me from channeling, taking me aside for conversations every year at the Rueckert Reunion. My feelings were hurt. Nevertheless I did not allow myself to express my pain. My childhood training was that a Christian always turns the other cheek. So I kept my resentment and anger to myself and tried to support him while profoundly disagreeing with him. I did it for a worthy reason. I wanted to support my brother more than I wanted to express my honest reactions. But this “silence of the lambs” was not a successful communication technique. I eventually spoke my truth and paved the way for a new and improved relationship.

Patterns such as Tommy’s and mine are a long time in the making. We sometimes have to find out the hard way how to cherish ourselves and each other by drawing needed boundaries. Some would say that because Tommy and I cannot talk out our religious differences, we do not actually have blue-ray communication. However I would say that often, there is great virtue in silence. When two people who love each other cannot come into agreement after substantial discussion, it is perfectly appropriate to agree to disagree without raining judgment down on each others’ heads. For most people, there are some entrenched beliefs and opinions which will not change, regardless of persuasion or coercion.

Ken Keyes, author of Handbook to Higher Consciousness, offers a very effective suggestion for those trying to maintain honesty in their personal interactions. When we are having trouble achieving clear communication with a spouse, friend or business partner, he writes, it is skillful to begin all of our sentences with “I create.” A sample conversation might begin, “I create that we are not hearing each other.” The other person may answer, “I create that I also am experiencing frustration at not being heard.” The point of using “I create” is to drive home to us how subjective our understanding of what we hear is.

It may seem tedious to slow down communication like this. And it is, indeed, slow going to use this technique. However, using “I create” sentences, a pair intent on heart-felt communication can wend its way carefully through the subject at hand. When we really need to hear each other, it is a very helpful technique.

In beginning each sentence with “I,” the two communicators are kept from accusing each other, as in “You did this” or “You said that.” Accusations are not blue-ray communications. If we need to share a concern with another, we can say, “I feel badly about something I thought you said. This is what I thought I heard.” Then we can share our tender feelings and find out if we heard the other person correctly without accusing the other person or separating him from us in our hearts.

Then there is the challenge of talking with complete strangers. How can we be totally honest when the other person is an unknown quantity? There is certainly a big difference between my comfort and ease of speaking when I am talking with someone I know and in whose affection I can trust, and my somewhat stilted speaking as I attempt to establish communication with someone who is new to me. I think that this is normal. It can be hard to offer your honest, sincere words to a stranger or even to feel comfortable in his presence.

It helps, in this situation, to take it on faith that the person whom we are meeting for the first time is also nervous. We can focus upon putting the other person at ease rather than on how we feel. We can look into the other person’s eyes and listen with all our hearts to whatever he has to say. This attentiveness and welcoming engagement helps the other person to relax with us. Soon the conversation flows naturally.

One example of this process is that which often occurs at our weekly public study and meditation meetings at L/L Research. People are always welcome to join our circles of seeking, and we receive visitors from all over the globe, although mostly from within the United States.

When people new to our group first come through the door, they are usually hassled and rushed. They have just traveled to Louisville, gotten a hotel room and rented a car. They have followed directions to our house on the outskirts of Louisville, which is a hard place to find. They have enjoyed our transcripts but they know nothing about us personally. And they are about to be part of a channeling circle for the first time. They are generally glad to be here but a bit out of their comfort zone.

We begin our meetings with a talk around the circle. The visitor begins to relax as the attendees’ voices weave and harmonize. We all share what is on our hearts, whether it is the bare minimum of our names, where we are from and how we first became familiar with the Confederation material or whether we freely share our thoughts about what is happening in our spiritual process right now. Communication around the circle is very often blue-ray in nature. Very quickly, new people discover that they are safe in our circle and can say what is on their hearts without fear of judgment. They thaw! They become part of the circle. They now belong. It makes a huge difference, that sharing around the circle.

By the time the meeting is over, our visitors’ nervousness is usually gone completely. Having rested in the warmth of the sitting circle and shared the experience of listening to the voices of the members of the circle, the voice of the channel and the thoughts offered, they have come solidly into their own open hearts and have then spring-boarded into blue-ray communication. After the meeting, if they have the time, most visitors stay late and share their experiences and ideas as though they were hungry for companionship and open communication.

It is a beautiful thing to see, and probably one of the chief reasons to visit our meetings. One can read the transcripts of our channeling sessions over the internet or download them for listening to them on the go, but the full experience of belonging to the circle occurs only when they are part of the sitting group coming together in harmonious, blue-ray communication.

Lend Me Your Ears!

A signal skill of a communicator is the listening ear that is able to distinguish just where the other entity is dwelling within its own mind and heart. It is obvious that one cannot communicate to most six-year-olds as one can communicate to a sixty-year-old. Yet the differences between the consciousnesses of various entities within your density is such that a six-year-old may be able to understand what you say better than a sixty-year-old entity who sleeps still in third-density’s unawakened bliss.

Therefore, we encourage each to practice the skill of listening and of attempting to tailor that which is communicated to the needs of that particular entity. This is careful, subtle work, yet we feel that it is a good discipline.¹⁰¹

Most of us employ a conversational style which includes hearing only a part of what the other is saying to us. We stop listening to the other person halfway through his thought, because we are already formulating our response to what he has just half-said.

We might even interrupt the other person, feeling we already understand what the other person is in the middle of saying, in order to offer what we have to say next. And we may well be mistaken in our inferences! So we have interrupted the natural flow of conversation and baffled the energy of the communication, for no good result.

These two habits halt blue-ray communication. As Players, we need to make a point of listening to the other person all the way through his speaking. We may well be surprised to discover that we were not really hearing the person at all, because we assumed we already knew what he was going to say.

Listening is a central part of the skill of blue-ray communication. Schooling ourselves to be “all ears,” we will know that we have truly heard people. And they will know it too! The simple courtesy of listening carefully to what people say to us is a wonderful help in achieving the feeling of safety and clarity in communication that distinguishes blue-ray speech.

The central requirement for being a skillful listener is for us to be in our open hearts. We are not listening to someone because we are being polite and are tolerating them. We are listening to him because we know that we are one at the soul level. We love and respect him as we love and respect ourselves.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Seek to assess the needs of that entity to whom you speak and then attempt to communicate directly into the heart of that energy. That gives the other full respect, and it shall aid in effective communication.¹⁰²

What you want,
Baby, I got.
What you need,
Do you know I got it!
All I’m askin’
Is for a little respect.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T,
Find out what it means to me.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T,
Take care, TCB.¹⁰³

When Otis Redding wrote these lyrics, he was asking us all to take care of business and focus in on each other. We all need respect! In communicating with people, we show our respect by consciously, carefully, talking right to each other’s hearts, hitting each other where we live.

It is a blue-ray skill to gauge our audience. The Confederation entities whom I channel for L/L Research tell us that they always aim their channeled discussions so that the least savvy person in the sitting circle can grasp what they are saying. That policy resulted in our receiving, in 1975, a discussion of “What Is Love,” which we were able to make into a coloring book for children. We are proud of that little coloring book, as there are few good metaphysical coloring books for children.

The reason we received that message of “What Is Love” was that one of our attendees brought his 7-year-old son to one of our meetings. He wished to experience a channeling session. “What is love?” was his question. The Confederation did not “talk down” to him. They simply used words and images he could understand as they responded.

We all need to measure our words and consider to whom we are speaking. Those of us in technical and learned professions especially have to watch our way of speaking when we are talking to someone who is not a fellow specialist in our area of expertise. Most professions and crafts have a jargon which is special to their work and indecipherable to the rest of the world.

I occasionally am unsuccessful in communicating with a technical volunteer. I find that using a middleman with both technical knowledge and a knowledge of our work at L/L Research improves communication a good deal. I may be a competent wordsmith, but computer jargon is beyond me. If we want to be understood, we need to talk with words our listeners can understand without a technical glossary.

All You Need Is Love

If your deepest desire is to learn how to love with wisdom and to know what it is to have compassion while invoking justice, then you move into those energies of acceptance and of justice that are invoked in blue ray.¹⁰⁴

The heart of successful blue-ray communication is love. It is not eloquence. It is not a dazzling command of vocabulary. It is not how learned we are, or how many examples we can give to support our opinions. It is love alone.

“All you need is love,” sang the Beatles.¹⁰⁵ In blue-ray communication, love overcomes a multitude of sins. And it is a quality not usually appreciated or encouraged by our upbringing or education. I, for one, was taught as a child more about how to debate a point successfully than how to come to my heart and speak my truth from there. When people prepare to communicate, they are usually thinking with their minds, not with their compassion circuitry.

Yet if our voices are not loving, compassionate voices, it does not matter how well we have organized our thoughts or presented our opinions. They will still fall short of achieving that blue-ray resonance. And if we are speaking from the heart, it does not matter how halting or awkward our words. The love shines through.

One good example of this involves a channeling student I had in the 1980s named Bambi. Bambi grew up in an orphanage. He “came up rough,” as we say in the south. As a child he was known for defending smaller kids from the playground bullies. He has worked hard all his life. He is not a learned man or an eloquent speaker. But he is the best guy in the world. And he always speaks from the heart.

In his channeling, that quality shone through. Everyone loved to hear Bambi channel. The love energy which his clumsy words and long pauses carried was wonderful. In reading transcripts of what he channeled, the power of his channeling is lost. The inspiration which his words brought to people lay totally in his speaking straight from the heart. He carried a very high love-energy. He still does, but he is no longer channeling.

How can Players bring this quality to the fore in our communication? By our remembering to move our focus into our hearts before we open our mouths to speak. There is no message we can share that does not come across better when we are speaking from a place where we consciously love the other person. It may seem burdensome at first to go through the process of entering our hearts before we speak. But we Players will find soon what a tremendous enhancement such preparation gives to our communication.

Blue-ray communication carries the energy of Archangel Michael’s sword of truth. There is a wonderful clarity to blue-ray thinking. Solomon, a figure in the Old Testament of the Holy Bible, when asked by the Creator for any gift he wished, asked for wisdom. Perhaps you recall the brilliant judgment he gave when two women were fighting over a baby. Solomon said he would cut it in half and give half to each woman. The woman who acted in love by relinquishing the infant, as Solomon knew, was the child’s real mother.

Marianne Weidlein¹⁰⁶ is a mentor for individuals and businesses who once suggested to me that I ask myself what “my highest, best self” would do in a situation, when I wanted to make a sound judgment call. I have found that this technique places me in my open heart and then springboards me into my most compassionate wisdom. Within our everyday selves we all have a highest and best self. Accessing that self is something we can all do.

Blue-Ray Sexuality

RA: I am Ra. With the green-ray transfer of energy you now come to the great turning point sexually as well as in each other mode of experience. The green ray may then be turned outward, the entity then giving rather than receiving.

The first giving beyond green ray is the giving of acceptance or freedom, thus allowing the recipient of blue-ray energy transfer the opportunity for a feeling of being accepted, thus freeing that other-self to express itself to the giver of this ray.

It will be noted that once green ray energy transfer has been achieved by two mind/body/spirits in mating, the further rays are available without both entities having the necessity to progress equally. Thus a blue-ray vibrating entity or indigo-ray vibrating entity may share that energy with the green-ray other-self, thus acting as catalyst for the continued learn/teaching of the other-self. Until an other-self reaches green ray, such energy transfer through the rays is not possible.¹⁰⁷

We are never more emotionally vulnerable than when we are in bed with our sexual partners.

This vulnerability is not crushing in red-ray experiences, because it is all about lust. If we are rejected verbally by a partner, it may sting, but we can always let the words slide off our back and find another sexual partner. Alternate partners lie thick on the ground in bars, dating services and on the internet.

If we have created an orange-ray sexual partnership with what the Ra group calls an other-self, the stakes are one notch higher. If our feelings are hurt by a friend and lover who criticizes our personal attributes, the words can really hurt.

I still remember with wry amusement my second lover’s asking me to sit up so that he could be sure I had breasts. My emotion was not amusement then. It was anger. Fortunately I had the wit to know that his words showed his shallowness and did not constitute a valid criticism of me or my worth. Although I forgave him for that request, I ended that relationship two weeks thereafter, as he wanted badly to marry my small-breasted self and I did not reciprocate that level of affection.

This “sit up” request represents a fairly shallow level of orange-ray vulnerability. A somewhat deeper level of orange-ray hurt feelings and confusion can result from issues revolving around possession, either feeling possessive or rejecting being possessed. Remember the Confederation quotation in Chapter 5 about feeling possessive? Here it is again:

The green ray activation is always vulnerable to the yellow or orange ray of possession, this being largely yellow ray but often coming into orange ray. Fear of possession, desire for possession, fear of being possessed, and desire to be possessed: these are the distortions which will cause the deactivation of green ray energy transfer.¹⁰⁸

The one thing we can trust about the mystery of romantic love is that it is unusual for both partners to love equally. Therefore, if a lover is possessive by nature, there will very likely be an imbalance between the partners. The partner who loves less intensely will resent and resist those conversations which seem to be about being possessed. He/she will not feel safe and relaxed about being possessed while being corralled. The one who loves more intensely must let go and trust the partner.

As a counselor, I have repeated this advice too many times to count. It is simple to give that advice. It is harder to take it. Yet possessiveness, coupled with the partner’s desire not to be possessed, remain perhaps the most common cause of orange-ray blockage, sexually speaking.

There are many other ways to violate one’s lover’s trust and create poor communication between the two of you. Often the issue is control. It is a prickly business to negotiate the terms of a casual but steady sexual relationship. Perhaps one’s lover wants to set the pace and place for dating or sexual relations. The one whose opinion is not sought is likely to chafe under the control. When attempts to talk the issue out do not yield a solution comfortable to both, resentment begins to set in and destroy that feeling of safety and being able to share openly.

How many ways are there to leave one’s lover? Paul Simon sang about at least 50, in his song.

You just slip out the back, Jack;
Make a new plan, Stan.
You don’t need to be coy, Roy,
Just get yourself free.
Hop on the bus, Gus.
You don’t need to discuss much!
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free.¹⁰⁹

The penalty for being born into an age and culture in which pre-marital sex is accepted fairly widely among people of good faith is that we well may have to break the fragile bonds of relationship. Whether we or the other is the instigator of “the end,” let it happen. If we do not, we will surely become blocked in orange ray.

Blockages in yellow-ray sexuality generally have the overtones of possession and control also. The stakes are just higher. When we marry an “other-self” or otherwise form a significantly committed relationship intended to be permanent, we have entered the realm of business. We have signed a contract, either legal or common-law. Civil laws having to do with this contract affect us.

If we separate after marriage, more than our hearts are broken. Our household must be broken up and sorted out. The care of any children involved must be addressed and this is always a heart-breaking situation for all concerned. Most of us have witnessed, whether up close or at a distance, the enormously painful legal and emotional tangles sometimes caused by ending relationships. Yellow-ray sexuality can be a mine field. Navigating this mine field without due respect and a full awareness of consequences is dangerous.

It is also within the bounds of legal marriages that most physical, emotional and sexual abuse occurs. I am not saying that spousal abuse is caused simply by getting married. Abusive partners tend to come from abusive homes. If we become fond of a person who was abused as a child, we need to reckon with the fact that our chances of being the victim of abuse are far greater after marriage.

Getting married carries with it, in most cases, unreasonably high expectations from both men and women. When these expectations are not met, disappointment can turn toxic. The desire to possess another person, especially, has a tendency to become obsession, which leads to distrust and rage. It may seem romantic at first to be loved obsessively. Be warned. It is the set-up for disaster.

Sexuality in green ray is wonderful! It is an open and free exchange of unconditional love. Each accepts the other fully. That is a wonderful thing, in and of itself. But when we move beyond energy exchange to blue-ray sexuality, we enter a safe place. This is tremendously healing. For many, it is hard even to imagine a sexual relationship which carries this level of honest communication and healing compassion. Yet if we are exchanging green-ray energy with our sexual partner, we can springboard into blue-ray by allowing our partner totally free rein in how he or she needs to say.

We can practice blue-ray sexuality by deliberately creating this “safe place” for our partners. Bedroom confidences are generally the deepest. We can, as Players, remind ourselves, if tempted to leave the total acceptance of blue ray, that we truly wish to constitute a safe place for our partners. In the face of upcoming catalyst, ask immediately for that “highest and best self” to take over. It is a powerful resource to have such a blue-ray partnership. And we can do that for each other.

Of course, it may take us most of the rest of our lives to learn how to do it well. The Ra group says,

The great key to blue, indigo, and finally, that great capital of the column of sexual energy transfer, violet energy, transfers, is the metaphysical bond or distortion which has the name among your peoples of unconditional love.

In the blue-ray energy transfer the quality of this love is refined in the fire of honest communication and clarity; this, shall we say, normally speaking in general, takes a substantial portion of your space/time to accomplish although there are instances of matings so well refined in previous incarnations and so well remembered that the blue ray may be penetrated at once.

This energy transfer is of great benefit to the seeker in that all communication from this seeker is, thereby, refined and the eyes of honesty and clarity look upon a new world. Such is the nature of blue-ray energy and such is one mechanism of potentiating and crystallizing it.¹¹⁰

Most of us do not have the luxury of a sexual relationship with someone whose instincts are so completely geared to our needs that we never need to work at achieving blue-ray sexuality. We need to gear up mentally and emotionally to realize that there is a very long learning curve involved in bringing blue-ray communication into our lives and especially into our mated relationships.

Yet it can be done! My husband and I, after the modest investment of only two decades of marriage, have found the way to be a safe place for each other while retaining the ability to offer sound judgment and honest opinion. The pay-off is substantial: clarity, healing and insight flow between two who are communicating at the blue-ray level. And blue ray sets the stage for sacred sexuality.

Realize that sexual energy can be an extremely powerful force. So take the time to be thoughtful and affectionate and spend the time needed to say things well. For how we say things matters a lot.

Summing Up

The positively oriented entity will be transmuting strong red-ray sexual energy into green-ray energy transfers and radiation in blue and indigo and will be similarly transmuting selfhood and place in society into energy-transfer situations in which the entity may merge with and serve others and then, finally, radiate unto others without expecting any transfer in return.¹¹¹

Here is a quick check-list to be sure we are in blue ray:

1. Are we solidly in our own open hearts? Do we feel unconditional love for the person with whom we are communicating?
2. Are we being completely honest?
3. Are we sure this is what we think and what we want to say?
4. Are we sure we are responding to what the other actually thinks and what he/she has actually said?
5. Are we clear of any hint of wanting to make an impression or to control or persuade the other person?
6. Are we truly listening to the other person?
7. Are we clear of energies such as accusation or complaint?
8. Is the other person completely safe with us?
9. Have we aimed our communication directly at the heart of where the other person is coming from? Does our communication show total respect?
10. Are we remaining in our hearts, even when catalyst strikes in the midst of conversation?

If we can say yes to all of these questions, we are definitely vibrating in blue ray. As Players, we can cheer! We are winning the Game of Life! Once blue-ray communication has become our everyday practice, our lives will take on a grace and beauty we could not have imagined before undertaking this transformation into blue-ray communication.