Chapter Six
The Yellow-Ray Energy Center

The Birth Family and Yellow Ray

In the yellow-ray chakra, the culture within which you now dwell is likely to bring to the conscious attention of each the over-stimulations and desires for avoidance which are part of the relations of the self, such as the family group of birth, the family group created by marriage, the group created by working for a living and so forth.

The value of this system of learning which is bound up in the concept of family, clan and other groups cannot be overestimated. It is in this direction that progressive concepts may open new ways of seeing that indeed strengthen and further open the yellow-ray chakra in such a way as to improve the orientation towards the green-ray energy center and that tremendous shift of energy which may come as the heart opens.⁶³

The above quote from the Confederation emphasizes “progressive seeing” in group relationships. The goal of this seeing is to develop green-ray love through the opening of yellow-ray. This chapter is devoted to exploring how the progressive opening of the yellow ray can occur.

The yellow-ray chakra deals with formalized relationships such as our birth families, our marriages and our jobs. Certainly there are ideal, loving birth families, marriage families and work families. Our particular families may not be among them! The Confederation offers us suggestions on ways we can keep our energy bodies open at yellow ray. That is a challenge when we are working with family commitments, whether in our birth families or in our marriages, that create emotional responses which tend to narrow or close our energy bodies.

This report on the Confederation’s thinking is offered as the ET entities themselves slant the information. In terms of keeping the energy body open, that slant is in the direction of acknowledging the challenges of the Density of Choice, which is the everyday Earth world in which we live and share experiences, rather than painting an idealized picture of that perfect world which almost none of us experiences day to day.

When we look at our experiences with our families, we can see why the Confederation information focuses on the challenges they present. Most of us have at least some trouble dealing with our families due to what the Confederation calls the “honor/duties,” of tending to these formal group relationships.

This term, “honor/duty,” is helpful to Players, as it gives us the dynamic which the Confederation sees in yellow-ray relationships. There is no question that family duties are down-to-earth chores which need to be done. At the same time, the Confederation, by using that terminology, points out that all duties are also honors.

This helps us to see why these formalized relationships provide a fast track of spiritual seeking for the Player. When people live together or work together on a daily basis over a long period of time, the family acts like a house of mirrors. Family interaction can make us feel judgmental concerning another family member. This judgment shows us our own shadow side.

We only get aggravated by the things others do to us when they are also issues we have not developed and redeemed within ourselves. Family members thusly offer us catalyst that allows us to face and resolve these issues. And we will not resolve them until we can love them, just as they are. Since we are one, such catalyst also asks us to acknowledge and work with those issues of our own dark side. It brings the “grist for our mill” to us faster than we would otherwise receive it.

This happens to an extent in any relationship that gets past the first flush of pretence and into being real with each other. But permanent relationships can tangle up our energy centers far more easily than passing fancies and acquaintances, because of the familiarity we develop through the years with family members.

Sometimes such relationships can become toxic. Familiarity can become over-familiarity. We can take each other for granted. We can sometimes descend into enjoying petty grievances and indulging in chronic sniping. Within many families, whether at home, at work or on the playing field, dynamics develop between the members of the family which include a habitual bullying or manipulation of one family member by another.

Usually, this bullying pattern develops unconsciously. The yellow-ray energy center is blocked without our ever intending to lose polarity or fall off the enhanced Gameboard.

There are as many ways to be less than loving in our families as there are people in this world. Every situation is unique. Yet there are patterns that remain fairly true. So rather than talking in general terms about typical areas of dysfunction in birth families, let us look at one example of this kind of pattern, taken from my own experience. This should show us what sort of issues we deal with in yellow-chakra work with the birth family. And since both of my beloved parents have passed through the gates of larger life, they will not mind my using their story!

My parents were not happy to be forced into marriage. Mom and Pop were equally angry at being caught when they created me. My father was 26 at the time, while my mother was 20.

They met in wartime, in 1942. Pop was a jazz drummer playing in an Air Force band and she was serving in the USO as a singer and dancer. A chance meeting at a bond-selling rally and picnic led to their impulsive romance and I was conceived. Pop’s well-laid plans of touring in a big band after his military stint and Mom’s plans of pursuing a promising career as Dave Garroway’s sidekick on the “Today” show, on radio then in Chicago, went up in smoke. Their lives were changed permanently by my arrival.

Anger and resentment can be expressed in many ways that do not show. My father had a lively intellect, was trained as an engineer and loved to debate. This characteristic was always a bit challenging for people in general to accept. My mother was no exception. She did not like to debate. Her equally lively mind was more given to intuition and insight than to debate or other intellectual games.

She was the scholar and student of the couple. Her mind was furnished with an unending supply of anecdote, historical detail and literary observation. She was well able to hold her ground when it came to making a point. She simply preferred not to make points. She preferred to converse with creativity, spontaneity and brio.

Often an evening’s table conversation would escalate into my father goading my mother for her opinion on subjects about which she did not wish to engage. My father would persist and slowly drive her past the point where she could keep her temper. She would burst into hysterics, leaving the room in tears. Pop would just shake his head.

He never saw that his intellectual and “reasonable” style of bullying was a marker for repressed anger at being trapped into the marriage in the first place. She never saw that her resentment of his bullying was rooted in her resentment at having to be married.

This pattern went on year after year while I was growing up. I would escape the wrangling as often as I could, going to my room in order to find peace if I was not needed to baby-sit. The Beach Boys said it so well:

There’s a world where I can go and tell my secrets to,
In my room.
In this world I lock out all my worries and my fears
In my room,

Do my dreaming and my scheming,
Lie awake and pray,
Do my crying and my sighing,
Laugh at yesterday
In my room.⁶⁴

In terms of the q’uotation which began this section, I was being overstimulated by this disharmony and seeking avoidance of the cause by going to my room. There I could create my own atmosphere, put on the music I preferred and enjoy my own thoughts. I could keep my space tidy. It was wonderfully healing.

In my mother’s middle years, she became aware of the toxicity of this pattern of bullying. She broke the spell by forming a standard response to Pop’s debate gambits. It was, “You could be right, dear.” She learned to appear to engage, rather than refusing to respond. And because she agreed with Pop, he had nowhere to go. It was not a perfect solution but it did keep her energy body clear at yellow ray.

I would submit that when he died, my father graduated from third density with flying colors. He was a very service-to-others polarized person. He volunteered all his life with his music, playing in a “big band” which offered free dances to old folk’s homes each month. He sacrificed his burgeoning road career as a jazz drummer to take a lifetime day job as a chemical engineer so that he could feed his family. He volunteered to serve his country in World War II. After his retirement he drove older people to their doctors’ appointments and brought them “Meals on Wheels.” He was faithful to all the ethical ideals of his understanding, even when it cost him dearly. He attended church and had an active prayer life. He was a humble man. And he loved my mother all his life as best he could.

He was no villain. He was good, true and sweet, underneath the crust which growing up in the depression had created in him. He worked steadily from the age of five, peddling papers, not to earn money for himself but to help buy bread for his family. It left its mark. It was that crust which kept him from seeing the damage his “debate” gene did in the family pattern.

At the end of his life, he talked to me about how he felt about Mom. It was a revelation. He had stayed with her when things got rocky, he said, because she was more interesting than anyone he knew. He loved to talk with her. He never could figure out why she was so easily upset!

Our whole family system tended to create defended patterns because of Mom and Dad’s wrangling. My two brothers and I did not engage in the disharmony, for the most part. I, the oldest child and the baby-sitter, tended to go off on my own with my brothers and do things with them. Between us siblings, there was an atmosphere of peace and cooperation. If simple avoidance was my first coping mechanism in family matters, creating a sub-family group by planning activities for my younger brothers and me was my second coping mechanism. It worked well. All three of us had a really good time growing up together.

Herein lies a key to family relationships: be creative and proactive in changing the energy by focusing on enlarging the feelings of love that are there. While we kids loved and accepted our parents as they were, we often chose to create a more harmonious environment for ourselves. We moved our own energy bodies into more of a free and open flow. While we could do nothing about our parents’ anger, we could and did choose to live in a more peaceful environment. With both parents working full time plus performing frequently at night, we were often quite free to do so thanks to The Babysitter—me.

Almost every birth family has toxic patterns of some sort. Each family is different, but it is quite rare that the children of a birth family feel that their childhood was easy or that their emotional needs were fully met. As year follows year, each family will fall into ruts over which it may or may not be enjoyable to drive. Therefore, in dealing with our birth families, the Confederation recommends that we spend some time getting a feeling for the basic dynamics of our families.

Once we have spotted the recurrent patterns of toxic interaction in our families, we can find ways to change the patterns, or at least ways to change our reactions to beholding these patterns as they unfold around us. This emotional distance frees up our energy. And as Players on the Gameboard, that is our goal: to keep our energy flowing.

Since the birth family, according to the Confederation, is chosen by us before birth, we can be confident that we are in the right place in terms of this environment being intended by us to be the best situation possible for learning our incarnational lessons as children. It may be the work of years to get past our resentment of one family member or another once we reach adulthood, but it is work we intended to do when we came in. We need to step up to the plate and accept our birth families. We need to make our peace with birth-family members.

With my parents, my issues had to do with their leaving the responsibility of the family in my hands in order that they might have more time to further their educational, career-centered and performance-oriented goals. I was taken for granted throughout my childhood while working my head off. It was as though I were their parent, rather than the other way around.

Since Mom did not enjoy motherhood, she did not fuss over me. She tasked me. And while I was glad to help, I also developed a deep resentment of the loss of my childhood. I was baby-sitting at seven, cooking at ten and I never had a concept of “play.” I yearned to be the center of her attention. I never was.

With Pop, my catalyst was in his unending perfectionism. Whenever I accomplished something, his comments had to do with what was wrong with my accomplishment. He was never satisfied with himself, and similarly never satisfied with me. Had I been a stand-up comic, he would have been a tough room!

When Mom chose sobriety in her middle age after a slide into alcoholism, I saw my chance to come into harmony with her. Knowing her love of words and her dislike of confrontation, I suggested we correspond. We exchanged perhaps a dozen letters over the period of half a year. At the end of that time, our issues were resolved to our mutual satisfaction. She was free of guilt and I was free of resentment. Our last dozen or so years together were an unmitigated joy.

My Pop was a tougher nut to crack. However, as I was praying about finding a way to come into harmony with him on a Sunday morning in church in 1978, I received an impression that I was to meet him after the service in an odd place, the choir women’s vesting room. I went, and he was there. I confessed to him my yearning to settle our differences. Naturally, he had no idea that we even had differences.

I told him how it broke my heart that I could never satisfy or please him. I had real despair over my inability to please him. When I told him this, he was stunned. “You’re the best daughter any man could have!” he blurted out.

And that is all I needed to hear. We were at peace with each other until the end of his life. The next Valentine’s Day I received a card from him. It was hand-made. The verse read,

Roses are red, violets are blue.
Pop loves his daughter and is glad it is you!

Great poetry—NOT! A blessing to my heart—YES!

One further example of birth-family woes in my own family was between my baby brother and me. I have always been a mystical, non-dogmatic Christian. My brother became a very dogmatic, fundamentalist Christian in his high school years. He became convinced that my soul was at stake because of my channeling. For 23 years, he used every family occasion as an opportunity to lecture me and attempt to persuade me to give up the channeling.

From my point of view, I was specifically serving my Lord by offering myself as a channel. So I could not accommodate him. For nearly a quarter-century, I just lived through these toxic conversations, not speaking out in argument, although his opinions broke my heart. Finally I realized this was too painful to continue. I told him that until he could promise not to try to change me, I would not visit him at Christmastime.

I did not see my brother and his family that next Christmas. Almost two years later, I got a call from my brother. In conversation with a Jewish friend whom he was attempting to convert, his friend had asked him, “If I never convert, am I still your friend?”

“Of course,” said my brother. “I would never cut you out of my heart because of a difference of opinion.”

Then it flashed across his mind: but I cannot say that about my own sister! He telephoned me and promised that never again would he try to change me. And he never has!

Our relationships in the birth family last for a lifetime. As Players, our goal is to inject love, peace and understanding into these relationships, generously celebrating our family members for exactly who they are, yet celebrating ourselves by setting limits also, as needed, so that we do not become doormats for bullying, no matter how well-intended the managing might be.

There are some families whose level of dysfunction is such that we may need to remove ourselves completely, at least for a time, from their influence. If this is the case, as Players we need to do so without locking these people out of our hearts. We can go away, physically, if need be, but we need to continue to love them from afar as best we can.

Marriage and Yellow Ray

We encourage, in the dailiness of a mated relationship, the continual return to that place of marriage where two souls have united with the Creator to create the temple of a lifetime of dedicated and committed loving.

Move into the silence of that tabernacle which is within the heart. Move into that shared silence in which each may hear the Creator speak.

Let love be that which it is but allow a love which you know not to undergird and support that which you know now as love.⁶⁵

If we have married in this lifetime, perhaps we share misty memories of the beauty of our wedding days. I have special feelings for my beautiful dress and hair-do, the company of my bridesmaids and all the sweet details of such a happy day. Other than the power-packed catalyst of choosing to having a child, choosing to get married is the most powerful yellow-ray decision we make in this life. We intend with all our hearts to make that promise to love each other for better or for worse, till death us do part, our reality.

Again I shall use my own experiences as an example of the kind of issues we face as we deal with our mated relationships.

I have fond memories of both my wedding days and know how true my intention was as I said my vows, both times!

My first marriage did not take. My motive in marrying was not love but ambition. My first husband, Jim DeWitt, was a gifted musician and folk singer in our high school years. After rehearsing and performing folk songs together for three years as “Jim and Carla,” we were ready for the big time. Still in college, we were young, attractive and sounded very good together. We had created 60 beautiful, original songs and our hearts were full of love and light to share with the world. Jim was a member of the original meditation group begun by Don Elkins in 1962 and he and I shared the high ideals which I discuss in this book. Our intentions were pure.

When we got an offer to tour with Peter, Paul and Mary in the fall of 1964, Jim said that unless we got married, it would not be morally acceptable to him for us to travel together. And so I agreed to the marriage. I was fond of Jim, as he was of me. However I was not romantically in love. I simply wanted to sing!

As soon as we were married, Jim decided not to tour after all. He felt the hot breath of fame and panicked when an autograph seeker approached us at a local restaurant. He hung up his guitar and his performing career for life.

The apparent reason for my first marriage having been removed completely, I chose to keep my promise and move forward focusing on the good things we had together. However I was relieved indeed when Jim asked me for a divorce in 1968. As Romy Schneider’s character in the venerable film classic, Good Neighbor Sam, said about her on-screen marriage, it felt so good when it stopped!

My second marriage was not a marriage at all but a hand-fasting. Don Elkins did not approve of the legal trap of marriage, yet wished my companionship. I adored Don. And so we jumped over the broom together, Scottish fashion. We were together for 16 years, until Don’s death in 1984. In its way it was a divinely happy non-marriage.

My third “permanent” relationship was my second marriage, to my present husband, Jim McCarty. I praise the Lord for the incredible luck of ending up with the best guy in the world. I am still so in love with my Mick that I cannot really see straight when I am around him. Our marriage has lasted over twenty years and is still going strong. Good marriages are possible. But not necessarily probable.

Marriage is not the permanent, final choice in the 21^st Century that it approached being in the past. Permanency remains the ideal. But when marriages fail, there is no societal condemnation. Fully half of the people who plan their weddings and exchange vows these days dissolve their unions within a few years. The reason is made clear when a famous divorce like that of Prince Charles and Princess Diana occurs.

The Prince married not for love but to secure heirs to his family name. Once “the heir and the spare” were produced, Charles could not find it in his heart to remain faithful to his bride. The love of his life, Camilla Parker-Bowles, had married someone else. He had married someone else. But they chose to be together anyway, at first discreetly and then, thanks to modern technology, very openly.

Had the Princess been older and more mature when the embarrassing cell phone conversation betwixt Prince Charles and Camilla became public, it is quite possible that she would have chosen to ignore the prince’s romantic defection. Certainly, the royal family hoped that she would. Many royals had done so before her. There is a lot at stake in a state marriage. It was hoped that the future Queen would see her duty—her honor/duty. And it is an honor to be in that position, where just by keeping an open and loving heart and doing your various duties, you can strengthen and support a whole nation of people.

However Lady Diana’s heritage was aristocratic, not royal. And she was quite young when she married. She had previously been the darling of her family. When her time came to sacrifice her pride and her happiness in order to keep her royal promise, she could not convince herself that the sacrifice was worthwhile. She went public with her complaints and the marriage was soon dissolved.

In a world where the pressures of convention are not enough to keep a royal couple together, there is clearly no longer a genuine pressure from society to stay married. Even from the religious authorities who preside over our weddings, we now do not necessarily receive dire warnings if we wish to dissolve our unions.

It might clear things up for us if our society was dead honest about the contractual nature of a marriage. If we took on marriage as we do other types of contracts in business, we could craft the agreement with more of a sense of the ties that bind.

Perhaps we would make a one-year or five-year, renewable promise instead of promising a lifetime all at one go. Perhaps we would agree by contract that the wife or husband would have paid time at home while she or he raised their children. And so forth, ad infinitum, depending upon the needs of the partners entering into a marriage contract. It does not help things that we who marry make a lifetime contract with the nuts and bolts shrouded in wedding veils and pastel-beribboned net packets of birdseed.

However there is one genuine gift at the heart of all religious marriages: the one infinite Creator. As the Q’uo group says,

In any metaphysical covenant there is a third party which overshadows both entities. You may call that being the Creator. Perhaps we would do best to call it living love. Those who do not marry and seek together, seek alone for the face of love. Those who seek through the covenant of marriage incorporate that which they seek into their marital seeking. This gives to those who grasp and understand the metaphysical meaning of marriage a gracefulness and a tenderness that would not come naturally otherwise.⁶⁶

Speaking from my own experience, I can vouch for the fact that when two mates blend their spiritual walk along with their worldly lives, the strengthening of both by each other is almost miraculous. I had been making a daily Morning Offering ever since I was 12. When we married in 1987, Jim began joining me for that. In 2001, we added to that a daily evening chapel time, the Gaia Meditation. These two times of prayer, meditation and visualization have bracketed our days for years now and lent to our daily routine the feeling of sacredness we both desire.

There are many catalysts which can spell the end of a marriage. Sexual misbehavior and emotional or physical abuse probably top the list. People are not always kind to each other. Perhaps our mate has been brought up in an abusive family. He or she will subconsciously lean towards repeating that pattern. Perhaps the spouse is a bar crawler, needing the spurious reassurance of a new sexual partner to feel good about himself or herself.

Those patterns of over-activation and avoidance, lust and jealousy, get triggered. Some want to be possessed. Some want to possess. We don’t always match up the two when it comes to picking a mate. There are so many ways things can seem to fall apart!

When we find ourselves at the point of doubting whether the covenant we made in marriage is a good one, the Q’uo’s advice is sound: go back to our wedding day. Return to the chancel where we made our vows. Gaze at the altar and the holy things thereon. Feel the presence of that one Creator who came into our marriages with us when we made our promises. And ask that presence for the help we need to stay true to our vows.

As Players, we know that we have taken a divine gamble by marrying. We know that each and every bet we make on the Gameboard is tripled. If we can support each other, we have then supported the other-self, our self and the Creator. If we can accept each other, the power of that acceptance spills over into our ability to accept the beauty of all of creation. The potential for excellent catalyst and a good companion with whom to work with that catalyst is great.

The difficulties and challenges of yellow-ray marriage are always substantial, even in the best-mated pairs. Remember, always, that third party in the marriage contract: the Creator. When challenged, find each other and come back to the sacred chancel where the covenant was made, to seek for compassion and understanding and to heal together.

We will talk more about marriage in Living the Law of One – 102: The Outer Work, at the level of trouble-shooting perceived problems. For this “give me the bullet” volume, what is important to recall about marriage is that in terms of our graduating from the School of Planet Earth, it is centrally important to be sure that marriage and its issues have not blocked the flow of energy through our yellow-ray energy centers. Relationships may or may not work out. That does not impinge on our work as spiritual seekers. Our first interest as Players is to be sure our energy bodies are free of constriction.

Yellow-Ray Sexuality

When we speak of true energy exchange, we must consider that the energy between two people has moved a very long way from that beginning red-ray attraction which eventually initiates sexual congress. It has gone from lust to a personal relationship and then often to a legal relationship or a committed relationship which is mated. And then the couple has the opportunity to ask for the Creator Itself to enter the sexual relationship through the open heart.⁶⁷

When it comes to our sex lives within the mated relationship, we have pressure upon us that is not there in orange-ray sexual relationships. As I said, all bets are tripled when one marries. If we win, we win big. If we lose, we lose big. The phrase, “You’ve made your bed: now, lie in it,” always seemed ironic to me in the days of my first marriage and again during the years of my hand-fasting, as I thought to myself, “I can take responsibility for lying in the bed I have made. But I never knew that I’d be lying in it alone.”

We must face the very real possibility that our sexual desire for our partner may wane. Or our partner’s sexual desire for us may wane. In my first marriage, our sex life fell apart after the wedding day. My husband’s sexual interest in me permanently waned. He came to me only for the most perfunctory of sexual releases.

This pattern held true in spades for my hand-fasting to Don. Once we had bonded, Don chose a celibate lifestyle. I had then to choose whether or not to accept that. Although I was only 25 when we joined forces, I did accept that, in my fashion. Out of 16 years together, I, too, was celibate for seven of those years. For the other nine years, I chose a lover whose motives were pure and whose love for me was genuine. Don gladly agreed to this discreet arrangement for he grasped that I needed a lover, whereas he did not. He knew well how I adored him. We were extremely well mated otherwise.

With Jim McCarty’s and my mating, the situation was quite different. His sexual interest in me has not wavered through all our years and all my differing sizes, ranging from 110 pounds, when he met me, down to 80 for several years during the Ra contact, and then gradually up to 175 over the next many years, and vacillating up and down ever since. He loves all the varieties of “me.” He says, “Sometimes you are a nymph. Sometimes you are a cherub. But you are always you.” Bless him!

When the sexual chemistry holds true, married love is the best of all. We, as couples, learn each others’ bodies and preferences. We can become the best lovers in the world to our mates. I love that process of finding ever more unified and harmonized ways to share sexual energy or, to put it another way, to share playtime with our bodies and the Creator in the fields of the Lord.

We never know, when we marry, what will happen to our sex lives. And in terms of keeping our energy bodies flowing clean and clear, we cannot be attached to any particular outcome. People must be true to themselves. Our challenge in marriage is to love our mates for exactly who they are.

One powerful resource in marriage is simple tolerance. Sexuality is never completely the same for any two people. Depending upon what people’s first sexual encounters have contained, they may be sexually aroused by a vast array of different characteristics or features. And our mates are depending upon us to make those preferences acceptable and to help them come true for him or her.

There are toxic sexual patterns in marriage that we need not accept, like the infliction of pain. Just say no! And leave the marriage if the abuse does not stop, for there is danger not only to ourselves but to our children.

But for quirks that seem harmless, we do well to approach the marriage bed with an accepting and flexible attitude. Those who seek as a united couple for a way to be together sexually can find a way. So hold on to tolerance and remember the true affection that underlies our sexuality. That true affection is one-size-fits-all.

Another resource that is very helpful in keeping us clear in yellow-ray sexuality is patience. Marriage is not a test ride. It is not a vacation. It is the long haul of the coast-to-coast trucker. So be ready to live and learn. Figure the first ten years or so to be a shake-down cruise.

Step up to the plate when our mates need us to understand that they like X-rated movies, or velvet ropes, or locations for making love that to us do not seem appropriate. Avoid the authorities, mind you, but let us see what can be done to accommodate the individual tastes of our mates. They are depending upon us for the fun and goodness of their sexual life. And it is a natural function, not something to shrug off as unimportant or to cringe from as crude.

As we pair off in marriage, it is well for us as Players to recapitulate the red-ray attraction and the yellow-ray romance that preceded the decision to marry. Make dates. Put quality time into just being together, even if it is expensive. Our sex lives will thrive when given time and attention.

Our culture expects us to count off in twos “forever.” More and more, we do not oblige, at least not for a whole lifetime. And that is our loss. Having experienced the benefits of working through the issues of relationships over decades of time, I can say that the two most beautiful things in my life are my memories and living experiences of being companioned by two fine men, Don Elkins and Mick, my nickname for Jim McCarty. Q’uo comments,

Beauty from the yellow-ray energy becomes a far more subtle and rich-textured thing, for within the yellow-ray energy lies mated relationship, and it is within the safety and intimacy of such continuing and prolonged relationships that those who become spiritually mature are able greatly to broaden and enhance their concept of beauty. The qualities of a mate can be imperfect in the extreme, and yet, over a period of time and the blessing of ever-lengthening shared history, the entities within the mated relationship become so over-drawn with the patina of loving and being loved that even the homeliest entity becomes perfectly itself and therefore beautiful because it is that person. And finally the leaden and heavy weight of physical opinion of beauty becomes that which can take off like the kite in the wind, soaring with the energy of the wind of love.⁶⁸

The Yellow-Ray Environment

The yellow-ray body is your physical vehicle, which you know of at this time and in which you experience catalyst. This body has the mind/body/spirit characteristics and is equal to the physical illusion, as you have called it.⁶⁹

Our red-ray chakras correspond with the elements, which have a body complex. Our orange-ray chakras correspond with the world of nature, in which the animals especially have a mind/body complex. Our yellow-ray chakras correspond with us in our everyday lives. We humans have a mind/body/spirit complex.

The yellow ray is the chakra of our humanity. It is more than our bodies. It is that “I” that is reading these words. Our heritage, coming into 3-D, is a great-ape body with its instincts and mentality. Within third density, we hope to become more than an animal. We hope to discover and develop the spiritual part of our mind/body/spirit complex.

At least a limited sense of moral and ethical considerations is an element of the psychological make-up of every mentally healthy person. Dewey B. Larson, whose Reciprocal System of Physics so well coincides with the Confederation philosophy, calls humans “ethical biological units” in his book, Beyond Space and Time.⁷⁰ To be human is to have a conscience, to know that things are not always black and white and to wish to become more than we are even as we continue to live in the gray area.

We humans have a yearning; a yearning so strong that it has found expression in every society on earth. It is our yearning to know and to worship the Creator and to honor that which is sacred. The true human condition is one of “divine discontent,” as Jose Ortega Y Gasset said.⁷¹

Along with that yearning there comes a desire to know what is right and wrong. What makes things “right”? What makes them “wrong”? We quest after right behavior by nature. Questions of polarity are not simply something the Confederation thinks are central. Psychologists will tell us that they are built into our human nature. It is important, as we get a grip on yellow-ray issues, that we see ourselves as fully human and that we define our humanity in terms of our hunger for a way to live faithfully and to use our wills to make good ethical choices.

The yellow ray is the last center of our energy bodies through which the infinite love/light energy of the Creator moves—or is blocked—before it reaches the heart chakra. It works with the most central relationships of our lives. The yellow ray is a center of profound power, the gateway to the heart chakra. It is important for us as Players to recognize our yellow-ray issues as they arise and to remember to keep our energy bodies clear while we move through the feelings and the thoughts which they produce.

In appearance the yellow-ray energy center has a rounded, star-like shape, with many facets or “petals” being developed as we clear and balance this center. I like thinking of having a golden flower in my belly!

Since each density, according to the Confederation, consists of the present density plus tinges of the density to come, hints of the green-ray density dangle before the third-density Player as the carrot tempting the horse. The shining and utterly affectionate energies of fourth density positive are intended to lure us onwards to seek unconditional love.

In actuality, at some moments we may find these lessons of love too difficult to face. We turn tail and head back to the known territory of second density. In our supposedly third-density societies, we humans have repeatedly succumbed to the old, familiar lure of second-density territorial violence. In the minds of many heads of state, from Caesars and Emperors to the present, there has been a great leap of aggressive ambition. Instead of being content with defending our local territory from invasion, many leaders have chosen to conquer large swaths of the entire world. In both nation-states and multi-national corporations, violent aggression has repeatedly won out over civilized cooperation and courtesy.

As Players, we cannot afford to make such choices on the personal level. We cannot forget that we are all one. We need to recall that when we harm another’s body, we are harming our own bodies.

When we hear again the political excuses for war, or when we are cut off by a rude driver in traffic, we need to remember the truth of unconditional love. No, it is not a correct solution to kill others unless we are defending our homes and families against aggression. No, it is not a correct solution to meet another’s rude behavior with anger. We are on Earth to find the love in this moment.

Our general human tendency is to divide the world into “us” and “them.” It is much easier to exclude people who are “not like us” than to find the commonalities between us and other people whose ways are not like ours or familiar to us. A particularly divisive human trait is having racial, religious and ethnic prejudice towards various of these groups here on Earth.

The Confederation says that indeed each race is different. But the difference is not in skin color or soul value. It is in the qualities and make-up of our archetypal minds. Since we all, in terms of DNA, came from elsewhere or were altered genetically by extraterrestrials in the far distant past, according to the Confederation, our Earth-archetypes are somewhat overlaid with the archetypal minds of our planets of origin.

This cultural diversity is a rich and heady mix of different ways of valuing and seeing our bodies, our minds, our surrounding culture and each other. We have all spent many lifetimes in these various genetically encoded racial bodies, learning the riches of each archetypal system. Potentially, as we all have become old souls here, we can become extremely tolerant of each others’ perceived differences.

It is unfortunate that the pull of second-density behavior is still so strong in us. Prejudice is alive and well, here in the last days of third density. We need to wash these thoughts out of our minds when we find them lurking there.

This will take every ounce of passion and determination we have within us. Prejudice is a sneak thief. If we let it in, it will rob us of our hope of becoming more than we are now. It will close up our yellow-ray chakras as tight as a drum. And then our hearts will stay closed.

When we think of issues concerning prejudice, we think of dramatic movements such as the desegregation of our schools or the laws created to ensure fairness in hiring practices. But for the average person prejudice is in the small things. It is in the people we allow our children to befriend, and those we do not. It is in calling one person by a title of respect and another person of the same age but different skin color by his first name.

We as Players need to watch for such shenanigans in our own thoughts and behavior so that we can muse upon them and seek guidance concerning them. The prayer, “I am a human being. Help me to become,” is a good one to have on hand for our own inner moments of seeing prejudice in ourselves.

Yellow-Ray Healing

The one great difficulty with the attempt to offer yellow-ray energy transfer is that this process is not native to yellow-ray.⁷²

One yellow-ray issue that seems puzzling at first is healing. Many people consider themselves healers. Healers have held an honored place in spiritual history. There is Elijah in the Old Testament, laying his body on the dying body of young boy and bringing him back to life with three breaths. There is Jesus and the Apostles in the New Testament, healing the sick and even raising the dead. Some people have always been born with the natural gift of healing in their hands.

However there are two types of energy healing: yellow-ray healing, which is the imposition of the healer’s will on the patient, and green-ray healing, which is an energy exchange at the level of the open heart.

The yellow-ray type of healing is not an energy exchange. The will of the healer pushes healing energy into the patient’s energy body. It is the typical one-way energy “exchange” for the first three chakras. It is not an exchange at all. One person gives and the other receives.

This is why a person can “lay hands” on us and make us feel better for a while. Then the healing energy wears off, and we are back to our original state of health. In and of itself, yellow-ray healing is a good thing, usually. There is typically no evil or service-to-self energy in such healing efforts. There is only the limitation of how far such healing may go without the heart being opened and without a sacred vision of the energy exchange of true healing informing the intention of the healer.

When a natural healer decides that he wishes to develop his healing channel, he will succeed only when he opens his heart and not before. The usual process for becoming an open-hearted healer is to view the self with such full compassion that it is possible to heal the self. Once the self has been healed, the green-ray healer can look with compassion on his patients and offer them an environment within which they may choose an alternative alignment within their energy bodies. The patients choose by free will whether to accept this alteration in the chakra body’s balances or not.

Negative Polarity and Yellow Ray

The negative path, as you would call it, uses a combination of the yellow ray and the orange ray in its polarization patterns. These rays, used in a dedicated fashion, will bring about a contact with intelligent infinity.⁷³

The Confederation suggests that if we want to graduate into fourth density in negative polarity, our primary job is to develop the lower three chakras with a fierce and ruthless will. Since readers of this book are presumed to be polarizing in service to others, there is no need to go into the use of yellow ray within negative polarization, except to say that you can often spot a negatively polarized person by how well in hand he has everything. We positively polarizing souls rely on and value feelings and emotions. We value people over projects and compassion over a rigidly-kept schedule. We are sometimes a bit untidy.

The negatively polarizing person is usually quite tidy. He will attempt to control his own appearance, image, emotions and feelings so that he is free to focus on how to manipulate any situation to his own benefit. He sees his appearance and image as assets to use in this manipulation of people’s feelings about and perceptions of events.

The thing to note about this polarization towards service to self is that it relies on will rather than faith; fear rather than love. It relies on the use of the will for the self. And it relies on instilling and manipulating fear in others. Together with the red, orange and yellow chakras, the negatively polarizing soul will use blue and indigo ray, the communication energy center located at the throat and the work-in-consciousness brow chakra, in order to graduate. He will skip the heart chakra completely.

The negative path of polarity is a difficult path indeed, since it does not use love or even acknowledge the power of love. Since all of creation is made of love, the path of negative polarity is justly called “the path of that which is not.” As we noted before, the Confederation says that this negative path of polarization peters out in mid-sixth density. All in all, the positive path of polarization is the shorter as well as the sweeter and truer path.

If we see ourselves becoming overly concerned with keeping everything controlled and in order in our lives, it is a good idea to stop and examine that attitude for its underlying negative polarity. Sometimes we need to let things be and let things go. It is far better for the positively polarizing person to be expressive, flowing with emotions and maybe a bit behind on details than for him to be totally organized and feeling negative emotions about those around him. Let some things fall off the wagon and smell the roses!

For those of positive orientation, it is a “we” world and we flow with those around us, including them in our little world. For those of negative orientation it is a “me” world which revolves entirely around us and our concerns. The positive Player will want to retain a firm grip on a “we” orientation as he moves through the day.

Jumping Ahead

The structures of the illusion, the relationships, the families, the friendships in groups are an elegant and eloquent design for learning. Into each relationship has been poured a tremendous amount of preincarnative thought. You may see each relationship as a carefully prepared lesson in the giving and receiving of love. And it is well to reconnect persistently with these lower chakra energies as one works within clear communication, the reading of material, and all of the work in consciousness that is so delightful to those who seek after wisdom as opposed to love.⁷⁴

As we wind up our discussion of how the Confederation views the lower three chakras, we look at the very common pitfall of the spiritual seeker’s process: the almost irresistible urge to jump ahead. Let’s face it: it is more fun to do the blue-ray work of communication and the indigo-ray work of journaling, studying one’s dreams, contemplating, reading inspiring books, meditating and all the other tools and resources of indigo ray than it is to check out our energy bodies for lower-ray blockage.

It may be more fun but it is less beneficial for the Player. If we focus on the higher chakras without keeping all our energy centers clear, we are setting ourselves up for a hard time. Such higher-chakra work needs full power through the heart in order for us not to drain our physical and the emotional bodies by doing that work. And so it is good to see daily chakra-clearing as housework in our sacred inner home—the temple of our awareness and our energy bodies.

We can think of our energy bodies as houses with two floors. On the first floor lie the lower three chakras and all the issues that they entail. Perhaps we can think of the red-ray room as the bed and bath, the orange-ray room as the kitchen and dining room and the yellow-ray room as the living room and home office. We have in precious chapters of this report covered the lower-chakra issues of sexuality, survival, personal relationships and formalized relationships. We all want to move on from those somewhat mundane-seeming “rooms” and climb the stairs to those “upper rooms” of the heart chakra, the throat chakra and the brow chakra.

Yet we cannot safely climb the stairs until our first floor “rooms” of root chakra, gut chakra and solar plexus chakra have been tidied. How do we tidy our emotions? We sit with them in the evening when we have some few minutes of our own. We remember the thoughts and feelings we have had today. We use our powers of analysis to evaluate those thoughts and feelings. We locate the thoughts upon which we got stuck.

Then we look at those thoughts. Are these “stuck” thoughts part of what the Buddhists call “old mind”? Have these triggers that have gotten us caught and stuck been with us since childhood? If so, we need to release those triggers once and for all. We release the triggers as we forgive the people who created those triggers in our memories and forgive ourselves for having been triggered.

Here is a way to think about this. Say that the original moment of triggering, where there was deep pain that crystallized within us, is like a bed-sheet that has became soiled and wrinkled. We retain a memory, a Xerox copy, of how it looked, soiled and wrinkled, in that moment of trauma.

Now in actuality, were it a sheet, it would have been washed, dried, fluffed, folded and restored as good as new. And we have worked through this trauma within our conscious minds in the past, so that seemingly all is well. Yet our memories like to retain the Xerox copy of that long-ago moment and forget about the fact that we cleansed that memory “sheet” and put it away long ago.

Take note, then, Players, when we see a memory surface from the past. Know it is a Xerox copy that is no longer true. For time has passed. We are different now, by far, than we were then. And we need to forgive and move on.

Focus in on that emotion that seems toxic and painful. Say it was an impatient thought. Allow the experience of that impatience to wash through you. Intensify it. Then let that ebb, and wait for the backlash from spirit, which in this case is patience. For in a unitive universe, there is always a balancing energy that makes situations whole.

Then allow that balancing dynamic of patience to intensify until it is as strong in our mind as was the impatience. Now re-examine the thought or memory. Is it in balance now? Have you now seen the full dynamic of patience/impatience?

When you have done your work with old memories, let them go. Keep the wisdom and see the benefit and blessing of this old experience, but harvest the love in this moment and its gleaned wisdom, and as Robbie Robertson said, “blow the rest away.” If you like, you can write the memory you wish to release on paper and then burn it. That gives a good feeling of closure.

Pets, Ghosts and Yellow Ray

For the second density, to express the beginning grasp of yellow ray is to become enough individualized that the entity can give and receive that quality known as love. A primary example of such would be the pets which many within this culture enjoy, each pet becoming more individualized with the loving care of the third-density entity.⁷⁵

Many of us have pets. It is one of the lesser known functions of our journey through yellow-ray life that we can “invest” our pets. The Confederation information suggests that as we invest our animals by our love and affection for them, their spirit complexes become awakened. Eventually they are ready, upon their deaths, to reincarnate not as animals but as 3-D babies.

We can also see in our pets the down-side to such investment, as our pets become subject to the emotional complexities of third density. Pets can get jealous and angry. They can develop neuroses just like humans.

The Confederation suggests that not only animals but also ancient trees and places or areas perceived as special or sacred can become alive and aware by having so much love poured out to them.

Another aspect of yellow-ray life that is seldom explained well is the phenomenon of ghosts. Ghosts are an artifact of the death process. It is rare that this happens, but it can happen that a person whose will is intensely concentrated on the life experience is not able to leave the yellow-ray body completely and move on into the graduation process. The soul itself goes on, but the personality shell, one of our “bodies” in yellow-ray life, is caught within this density. It can happen because of sudden death. More often, it happens because the person is completely fixated upon an aspect of his or her life and cannot let it go.

Such personality shells can be rescued by someone who is not afraid of talking to them. I once moved to a new apartment. The first night I spent there, I started to fall asleep and suddenly there was an apparition over my bed, floating in the air. It looked to be an older woman. She was distressed and hysterical. I became determined to find out what her story was.

I discovered that this lady had lived in my apartment until her death. Neighbors said that she had a son. He was mischievous and as he got older, he had become involved in petty crimes such as joy-riding and shoplifting. At the time of her death, she was obsessively worried about him. The neighbors reported that he had served time for these crimes in juvenile detention but was now rehabilitated and doing well.

I waited, that night, until I was in that state between awake and asleep, knowing that this is when ghosts like to make themselves known. When she appeared, I talked with her, telling her all the news I had learned and assuring her that her son was fine. I believe it worked, as I never “saw” her again, and I lived in that apartment for the next twelve years.

To sum up: red, orange and yellow rays are the tripod of support for our work as Players. Now we know the way to keep these three centers supporting us well. Clear them, clear them and clear them again!

Coming up next is our discussion of the central energy center: the green ray, the heart chakra. For positively polarizing Players, opening our hearts is the central spiritual work of our existence here on Earth. It moves us, finally, from having the vibratory characteristics of great apes who are smart to having the vibes of spiritual beings who happen to wear human bodies at this time.